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Self Esteem

HOW TO ENHANCE YOUR SELF-ESTEEM

• Spend time with people who like you and care about you
• Ignore (and stay away from) people who put you down or treat you badly
• Do things that you enjoy or make you feel good
• Do things you are good at
• Develop your talents
• Make good choices for yourself, and don’t let others make your choices for you
• Take responsibility for yourself, your choices, and your actions
• Always do what you believe is right
• Be true to yourself and your values
• Respect other people and treat them right
• Set goals and work to achieve them

Bullying

The following information has been adapted from

     Bullying is an aggressive behavior that is intentional and involves an imbalance of power and strength. Usually, it is repeated over time. Traditionally, bullying has involved actions such as: hitting or punching (physical bullying), teasing or name-calling (verbal bullying), or intimidation through gestures or social exclusion. In recent years, technology has given children and youth a new means of bullying each other.

What Is the Definition of Bullying?

     A lot of young people have a good idea of what bullying is because they see it every day! Bullying happens when someone hurts or scares another person on purpose and the person being bullied has a hard time defending himself or herself. Usually , bullying happens over and over. Some examples include:

• Punching, shoving, and other acts that hurt people physically
• Spreading bad rumors about people
• Keeping certain people out of a “group”
• Teasing people in a mean way
• Getting certain people to “gang up” on others

     Bullying also can happen online or electronically. Cyber-bullying is when children or teens bully each other using the Internet, mobile phones or other cyber technology. This can include:

• Sending mean text, email, or instant messages
• Posting nasty pictures or messages about others in blogs or on Websites
• Using someone else’s user name to spread rumors or lies about someone
• Posting sensitive, private information about another person

Why Do Kids Bully?

     There are all kinds of reasons why young people bully others, either occasionally or often. Do any of these sound familiar to you?

• Because I see others doing it
• Because it’s what you do if you want to hang out with the right crowd
• Because it makes me feel stronger, smarter, or better that the person I’m bullying
• Because it’s one of the best ways to keep others from bullying me

     Whatever the reason, bullying is something we all need to think about. Whether we've done it ourselves, or whether friends or other people we know are doing it, we all need to recognize that bullying has a terrible effect on the lives of young people. It may not be happening to you today, but it could tomorrow. Working together, we can make the lives of young people better.

Are You Being Bullied?

So you’re being bullied, huh? That can feel pretty awful. But, no matter how bad it makes you feel sometimes, you should know you’re not alone. That’s right, there are plenty of kids all over the world who go through the same things you do every day. And, even though you may feel helpless sometimes, there are a lot of things you and others can do to help stop the bullying. Give these tips a try.

• Always tell an adult. It's hard to talk about serious things with adults sometimes, but they can help put a stop to bullying. Tell an adult that you trust and can talk to - your parents, your teacher, your school counselor, your coach, your neighbor. If you've told a grown-up before and they haven't done anything about it, tell someone else. And if you're afraid to tell an adult that you have been bullied, get another person - like a friend or a sister or brother - to go with you. Having someone else there to support you can make it a lot less scary. Tell the adults exactly what has happened - who did the bullying, where and when it happened, how long it's been happening to you, and how it's making you feel. If you talk with an adult at your school, ask them what they will do to help stop the bullying. It is their job to help keep you safe. Most adults really care about bullying and will do everything they can to help you.
• Stay in a group. If it feesl safe, try to stand up to the person who is bullying you. If you are being bullied online, don’t reply. This may actually make the bullying worse. Instead, be sure to tell a family member or another adult you trust. If possible, block any more communications from this person. (For example, it might be a good idea only to accept messages from people you know.) Save evidence of the bullying. If you get a nasty email, print it out or save it so that you can show